The experience changed me forever.

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How we met

He was cute though not quite handsome. Polite but not exactly well-polished. Smart but not necessarily intelligent. He had a friendly but determined demeanor; his glasses flowed nicely with his smile, balancing his “nerd” appearance and youthful looks.

Roderick — a translation of his actual name, close enough to ensure his privacy while allowing me the morphological analysis — was not mighty but dreamed of being. He did not rule, although he tried to be a leader. He was not admired but connected well with people who inspired him. I seemed to be one of those: a muse.

His insecurity was apparent when rather than flirting with me, he stared at me when he thought I could not notice. He smiled at me with his eyes. We bumped into each other way too frequently — I am sure he planned our “unexpected” encounters. He confided in a friend about having a crush on me. That friend hinted to me about his interest. I decided to make it easy for him to make a move by sticking around a little longer when we were in the same place at the same time and even inviting him to my parties. …


Was it a miracle or science?

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I was hesitant to take the job in the first place. Something about it seemed off. Nonetheless, the offer was too good to refuse: healthcare, 401-k, a slightly higher hourly wage than my previous job. Somehow, though, I had a feeling that this was not the best decision for me as much as it looked good on paper. Rather than trusting my intuition, I did what I thought was common-sense: I accepted the offer, not even allowing myself the three-month break I wanted to take care of myself — lose some weight, get in shape, work on personal projects. …


It will change everything.

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The next time you travel, you will not need a passport. You will not even need a photo ID. As a matter of fact, you will not need any baggage — you will leave it behind. The next place you will go is within yourself. Everything you need, you will find it there.

You will embark on that trip from the place you live in. Sitting on a chair, appreciating the sunset, or cooking in the kitchen. Or maybe, you will be taking a walk outside, away from your smartphone, not wearing earbuds. You will listen to a natural sound that will be whispered in your ear by the blowing, gentle wind. …


Make time for your personal goals, and see them come to life.

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Planning is a pleasure.

I love planning. I like doing what I planned even better. There is great pleasure in crossing something off a to-do list. Another thing I love is creating boards. Sometimes they are Pinterest-like vision boards. At other times, they are simple checklists with minimal images for inspiration — like the ones you can create with Trello. Planning is fun. At least when we start. Filled with inspiration, we set goals, create lists, but somehow we fail to cross off all items. Therefore, we do not see results from our planning as often as we desire. But why?

In the TEDx Talk “The gap between planning and doing,” Behavioral Economics Professor Kirsten Rohde said: “Many of us want to live healthier lives but fail to do so. We want to get up earlier, but somehow we don’t.” Professor Rohde describes what she calls a “gap” between what we plan to achieve and the results — which may or may not exist. This gap — the void between our wishes and their fruition, is the root of our failure. But it doesn’t have to be. Filling it with action is the key to making our dreams a reality. But, how do we do get from planning to doing? …


The science behind America’s obsession with coffee.

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A bad day

I called the Nurse Line from work with symptoms: chest pain, trouble breathing, dizziness. My vision was starting to blur. My speech was also unclear. Whatever that was, it happened fast. One minute, I am trying my co-worker’s espresso. The next, everything around me is spinning, and I feel like I will be sick.

After an assessment, she calmly told me to call an ambulance. I called my husband, instead. I remember my exact words: “This is not a joke, and I am not exaggerating. I think I am going to die. I love you. Can you come immediately and take me to the E.R.?”


How the way to get people watching your videos changed

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YouTube is finally raising the bar for quality content. Aware of the platform’s power for self-learning, it will start recommending videos you will be happy to watch based on the algorithm.

What is the algorithm?

“The algorithm” is a formula that factors in your search history and preferences to optimize YouTube’s suggested content for you. When you open YouTube on your laptop, an avalanche of suggestions is pre-loaded for you. If this is your first time using the platform, the recommendations will be randomized based on the videos’ popularity.

That is until you start clicking on them and watching them. That’s how YouTube tracks the data to analyze your preferences and tailor recommendations for you on what to watch next. …


And how to nail it this time

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It’s the time of the year when many men get overwhelmed by gift shopping for the special women in their lives. Retail salespersons have pre-selected options for the undecided, who will certainly walk in and be grateful to receive any help. I worked in retail — we want them in and out quickly, so we sell them what seems like a no-brainer, useful gift that gives them peace of mind.

In reality, those presents are lame. We would not want our boyfriends to buy them for us (except when I worked at Tiffany - I would have taken any of the gifts I sold there). …


From Stanislavsky Method to Improv, all the books you need.

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The habit of reading is not only healthy but necessary, especially for an actor, whose profession demands constant learning. The books listed here are the most frequently used in drama schools. They are also the professional literature actors mostly recommend and re-read over the years. Below are 5 Must-Read Books About Acting.

1. “An Actor Prepares” by Constantin Stanislavsky.

This book is a foundation for an actor, a no-brainer, unarguable mandatory study. Stanislavsky wrote it in Russia more than eighty years ago. Yet, it has not been surpassed in quality by any modern drama theory work. Expect it to be dense at first. If your attention span is short, you will find it “boring.” Keep reading, nevertheless. Let yourself get transported alongside aspiring actor Kostya through the teachings of Tortstov (Stanislavsky’s alter ego). The lessons you will learn are essential, relatable, practical, and memorable. …


Everything you need to create your videos from home.

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When you need to tape yourself on video for an audition, you need to make sure the final product looks professional. Flaws such as bad light and a messy background can distract the viewer from you and your performance. Ideally, you should have a designated spot to set up your home studio. That might be a permanent location in your house. In case that is not possible, pick the ideal area and set it up as needed.

American Horror Story” director David Semel says: “It’s important you’re well-lit and that I can hear you.” The quieter the room, the better. Also, natural light projected from a window on your face is always nice — but never coming from behind you, which puts your face in a shade. You may be filming after dark, so we will talk about how to use professional lights. …

About

Luciana Lambert

Actress, writer, public speaker, ex-lawyer, vegan, witch. The only thing that matters about my childhood is that I survived. https://linktr.ee/LucianaLambert

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