I appreciate you writing this piece. I hope more men will come out. So many of us women are treated like we are overthinking, taking things too seriously, even acting crazy, when all we are doing is loving and taking care of our families, with attention to detail. We take no pleasure in having to raise our husbands like one of our kids. We need our husbands making decisions with us, big and small. We need you to be adults - not just at work, not just with finances, but at home, with dinner, homework, and turning the Roomba on at the perfect time.
PS: A little apology to your ex could go a long way in co-parenting. Said with love.